Mother’s Day is a day that we celebrate our mother’s for the hard work that they do. It’s a day that has been put aside just for them. Social media, media, church services, and everywhere you go; there are sweet sayings and notes of happy and grateful moms.
Mother’s Day can be the hardest day for women that have not gotten the chance to be a mom or lost their sweet baby, babies, or child. Mother’s Day is a day of sadness and yearning of a dream not fulfilled or a reminder of happier times.
I spent many years yearning and hoping for the day I would actually celebrate this day. There have been so many tears, cries out to God, and glasses of wine just trying to make it through the day. I will never forget how hard and how dark I have felt on these days.
Mother’s Day is still bittersweet because as I celebrate being a mother to my sweet son, and pregnant with my sweet daughter, I mourn the loss of my twins in Heaven. I wonder what it would be like if they were here, what we would have named them, and think of how much love I would give them.
I love to celebrate my mother on Mother’s Day and I am so grateful I did get the opportunity to become one, but I will never forget the years I wasn’t and the babies I lost.
So here is to all of us. Here is to the women who are fighting the fight to one day become a Mom (whether it be treatment, donor, surrogate, adoption, etc), to the women who decided to take the path without children, to the wonderful woman who lost her sweet child or children. I honor you today. I honor your courage, your determination, your ability to make choices, and your ability to get out of bed.
And for those of us that struggled for so long and finally got our wish, let’s never forget the fight it took to get here. This pain and fight made us who we are and I feel we are stronger because of it. Let’s never forget to honor the others with different stories or ones that lost or did not get their happy ending.
Mother’s Day is for all the women rather you have your child in your arms, belly, in Heaven, or you still yearn and hope for one. I love you ladies! You are doing such a good job and you deserve a day to celebrate. You are strong and I am honored to be among you.